Joy Gypsies Vlog 'n' Blog

Thriving and Loving Life with

Jackie and Xochitl

Adventures of a Mother-Daughter Duo

Out to Transform the World. 

Together.

"I'll NEVER Do That Again!"

How many times have you said this to yourself: "I'll never do that again!"

Did you follow that by giving yourself "a good talking to" and/or by depriving yourself of something you wanted as a "consequence" to make sure you never make that mistake again?

Have you heard anyone else say something like that to themselves? Or have you ever told someone else they'd better not make that mistake again? Or punished someone for their mistake? Maybe slammed a door or yelled at them or gave them the silent treatment perhaps? Fired them?

Did any of that really work? Or did that mistake or something similar happen again later, despite your (or their) best efforts?

Why is that? Is it just unwillingness to learn from the mistake, or rebelliousness? Or what?

What if the "common sense" approach to dealing with mistakes is all wrong?

Many people grow up believing things like:

  1. It's bad to make mistakes. (Go down a notch in self-esteem if you do.)
  2. Bad things happen when/if we make mistakes. (Watch...
Continue Reading...

You Can Save Democracy

Today, January 6, 2021, a mob broke into the halls of Congress

and committed violent trespass while our elected representatives were processing the Electoral College votes.

Today’s events did not just happen in a vacuum.

For a mob to rise up, there must be provocation, regardless of whether it be real, perceived or imagined. There must be extreme grievance, usually for an extended period of time. There must be a perception that there is little alternative to be heard other than to rise up. Peaceful protests become mob riots only when the conditions are ripe.

We can debate who is to blame, who is responsible for what and who should be tried and punished. No doubt that will all happen soon enough.

It is time to face certain truths:

1. Democracy is a shared agreement, a context for our relationships with each other. We do not construct democracy alone. It is something we must do together, actively, not just once, but day after day after day.

2. Democracies survive when they...

Continue Reading...

Healing from Loss

By Jackie Ambrow, M.A., C.Ht.
 
A dear friend of mine lost his beloved after 37 years. As so often happens in the loss of a soulmate, his grief is still palpable and wells up, often at the most unexpected moments. This is what I wrote to him...
 
In the Beginning...
When our beloved physically leaves us in this life, our mind feels it has to hold onto the evidence of our beloved's existence. After all, much of our mind's identity is tied to who we are both with ...and because of... our beloved's presence in our lives.
 
Shared history is only one aspect of who we have become... because of our beloved. The physical pieces of evidence of our beloved may serve at first as painful reminders of our beloved's absence. Everywhere there are things, people, places to remind us of what we have lost....
 
When our grief is compounded by other hardships, we may feel the pain of absence and loss even more acutely...
 
The pain itself becomes a kind of evidence...
Continue Reading...

On Simplicity, Forgiveness and Thriving

By Jackie Ambrow, M.A., C.Ht.
 
When my then 18-year-old daughter Xochitl and I sold our house and moved into a fifth wheel RV back in 2010, our remaining possessions took up not one but two 10 x 20 foot storage units. That was a lot of stuff!
 
We had no idea how long we might RV full time. We just knew it was what we wanted to do rather than sit around and struggle paying rent to fund someone else's mortgage after we had paid our own mortgage for 7+ years. We didn't even have a truck to pull our trailer yet.
 
We just had a dream of traveling and working together. It felt right. And it was.
We thought maybe we might have a place again sometime in the next couple of years and we'd furnish it then with all the things from our house that we loved.
We thought we'd get our truck to pull our RV in just a year or so when the economy got better after the Great Recession. 
 
Boy, were we fooled. And life kept happening while we were busy...
Continue Reading...
Close

50% Complete

Join Us in Two Steps! 

  1. Sign up here for Joy Gypsies news, special offers, free tools and bonus resources to help you Thrive, Love Life, and Transform Your World.
  2. Confirm that you want our emails. Check your inbox for our email to confirm your subscription.